When you go from relationship to relationship that have no intention of leading to marriage, what is the point? Way waste your time and effort, why keep pouring so much of yourself into something that is a bottomless pit with no return? Why create resentment for the next one to come along and have to deal with tons of emotional baggage? We have enough on our own without pointless relationships. And lets not even get into spiritual ties. The reason why its so hard to walk away from that "one". You can’t be in sin 24/7 driving a wedge between you and God and think he’s going to award you with the perfect match. You’re obliviously not ready. I unknowingly carry some scars and others show like tormented exhibits hung on these thick walls I’ve built around my heart. I literally pray that my "soon-to- be" is persistent and patient, but that I will also have peace about us so maybe he can out run the guard dog and hurdle this wall. He shouldn’t have to chisel away at it because of the choices that I made.
I’ve been single for about 7 years now, by choice, and although loneliness knocks at times I’ll go 7 more years for God’s timing and not my own. He sent the message that he had someone just for me and I believe in God’s promises for my life, every last one of them. Even when it looks a little bleak, I know he’s faithful and his timing is perfect. Even while I’m pouting, LOL. So what I’m doing now is preparing my heart and mind and working on my relationship with God. Praying for my husband before he comes and allowing God to work in and through me as well grow the both of us. I still have a lot of healing to do.
So, be patient and stop letting these “randoms” feel like they’re worth your time. Even if they’re good guys, most of the time we as women know if they are right for us or not and we need to allow him to be ready to receive who God has for them as well. But, to be honest, the majority of us don’t get caught up and messed up over the good guys, it’s those “other” picks that make us feel less-than we give the upper hand to.
A man of God is going to give 100 while you give 100; he’s going to pick up where you lack, challenge you to be your best, and make you better. He’ll pray for you and with you, lead, provide and be attentive. He’s not going to only receive but he’ll pour into you as well but he’s not going to be a debiliating crutch. He’s not going to tear you down or disrespect you either. When you wait for a man who loves God more than anything or anyone else, that’s a future you can put your faith in because by always honoring God, he will love you the way God intended for you to be loved.
So, when I answer people and tell them I will marry when God gives me MY man, I truly mean it! I don’t believe that is too high of a standard, I believe that is the only standard that matters. He knows what I need, what I desire, and who is going to honor the covenant we enter in with Him one day. I’ll take one of him and none of the stooges . There’s no need to keep that seat warm. For something so great being prepared for me I need to be prepared for him and that means reserving a place for him to sit.