Five years into our marriage, we were blessed with our first son (of three). During this time, we were notified by the Air Force that we were being reassigned to Texas. This made it convenient for my wife to leave her engineering job with the government. Initially, all was okay as she took the societally accepted practice of a few months off to be with our newborn child.
Society’s perception of us changed rather quickly however, when we agreed that my wife would remain at home and eventually homeschool our three sons. We were questioned why she would waste her college education by remaining at home. Society asked how we could sacrifice the sizeable income of an engineer’s salary and why my wife could toss away her dreams of being a successful professional. Our sons were even questioned as to why they didn’t attend school with the others kids.
Thankfully, we never gave into society’s definition of how we were supposed to live. In spite of the pressure, silent criticism and occasional doubt, we maintained our commitment of submitting to God’s definition of us and purpose for us.
My wife remained at home for seventeen years and we’re thankful she did. If asked, she’ll tell you it wasn’t easy and that she often struggled with doing what we felt God called us to do versus following the path society defined for us. A few years ago, she returned to work as an engineer with the government. We recently reflected on the decision we made over twenty years ago and have no doubt our family and sons are much better because we didn’t allow society to define our life.
The above story is in no way intended to disparage or criticize families who may have taken a different approach to raising their kids. However, I hope our story encourages those who may have felt pressure to live up to society’s definition for their life.