I think as a Christian we have all encountered situations where when trying to hold a loved one accountable, in hopes of helping them get back on track, only to be labeled a judgmental person. Is it possible that your words were too harsh? If you’re anything like me, my words are very passionate when it comes to people I care about and that can be received as judgmental. It’s easy to look passed the intent when words are coarse. On the other side of this, I feel it’s easy to tag someone as judgmental when you feel conviction. Oops I bet I stepped some corns with that one! It’s all good though, we’ve all been there. After all, living for Christ is a process, because we’re always going to have pitfalls (Romans 3:23) and we'll never be perfect (2 Corintheans 5:21).
When we become part of the body of Christ, we are responsible for one another. It’s always good to have a person or people who can encourage you in a loving manner back to the straight and narrow. Does your inner circle include people as such; do you consider yourself this person?
Galatians 6:1-2, "Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted. Carry each other's burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ." If your accountability friend has done something contrary to the Bible, you are called to confront him gently, forgive him, and comfort him. It also admonishes you to consider yourself because no one is above temptation.
When you’re being judgmental of someone, it’s more of putting yourself on a platform to point out someone else’s short- comings. This isn’t who we are called to be in Christ! We are to judge between right and wrong righteously based on God's word. Judgment doesn’t come from a place of encouragement or a place of love. I’ve had my moments and I have had to repent plenty of times. Sometimes I forget not everyone is like me nor will they handle every situation like me. It’s easy to call someone incompetent because they don’t catch on quickly. Its easy to feel disgust because you would have never done what someone else has done, truth be told, maybe you haven’t been put in that particular situation.
Luke 6:37 “Judge not, and you will not be judged; condemn not, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven.
It’s not hard to cast judgment on others, but it is hard to hold someone accountable. Holding someone accountable means, caring and taking action in helping them. To hold someone accountable means, your words will be sweet when speaking to them. Holding someone accountable means, seeing them the way God sees them. My hope is that more of us will begin to hold each other accountable and not cast judgment. Also, I hope that more of us will recognize the difference when on the receiving end. I’m thankful for the circle of people God has placed in my life to be responsible for me, and I make sure I express it to them, because I may not express it when it’s time for me to be called out on my mess, LOL.
I challenge you all to encourage those around you to walk in line with God’s will. Speak up and don’t grow silent, because silence equals acceptance.
Reading: Ephesians 4:14-16
2 Timothy 2:25